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Abandonment hurts

I mentioned that there have been some issues in my last post.

I am sharing this mostly because if any one has any advice I welcome it with open arms.
Also if anyone else is dealing with this they are not alone.  I know it is always nice when I read that I am not the only one who is having a hard time.  That sometimes it is normal.

Athena's bio mom was was only seeing Athena once a week (if that) for awhile and has recently in the last two weeks wanted to spend more time with Athena.

Of course this has caused some emotional/behavioral regression.  I am seeing more then just tantrums this time.  She is not talking in full sentences, taking naps, and having trouble answering simple questions she was able to answer before.

When she came home last week she threw up and had diarrhea.  We figured she was sick.  She was so tired she ended up going to bed early.

The next day she was fine.  She did not complain about her tummy and had no bathroom problems.
One day flu maybe.

Her mom told her she would pick her up on Monday.  She did not mention it to me, nor did I bring it up knowing her mom is unreliable, until the other kids were being picked up.  She simply asked "When is my mom coming?"
I did not know Athenas mom had told her.  Her bio mom told us she was planning to but again we did not mention it.
I told her I hadn't heard from her.
Athena just went on playing.


Tuesday she woke up with diarrhea again. :(.
This was 4 days later.  No way this was the flu.
She still played and was active all day.
We took her to dinner, a special date, and her mom asked us if we would drop her off.
When we told her she said "I don't want you to share me."
She was upset.
About 30 min later she threw up again.  We hadn't even been served our food yet.
Not a flu.
I called our nurse and she these episodes were due to stress.

My little girl is stressing over her current situation and getting sick.  Along with the other symptoms I mentioned above.

This hurts my heart.  I want her to be happy.  I am also having a hard time dealing with the tantrums.  I am at my wits end and don't want punish her because I know it is not her fault but also know it's not acceptable behavior.

The baby talk is frustrating too.  I do not know why I don't like it but it drives me nuts.

I want Athena to strive and don't want her under this stress.
I want to support her.  I just don't know how.

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